T.R. Knight hid his sexuality for the longest time before an unfortunate incident outed him as gay in 2006. However, since coming out of the closet, he has had an arguably better life.

His coming-out story wasn't horrible. And he has been leading a happy married life with his husband Patrick Leahy for almost a decade.

T.R. Knight's Coming Out Story

Knight, Isaiah Washington, and Patrick Dempsey were all cast members of Grey's Anatomy in 2006. On October 9, 2006, they would be doing a late-night shoot for the show.

However, after Dempsey was late for the shoot and everyone had to wait for him, including Washington. Washington felt like it was disrespectful of Dempsey to do so.

This escalated into a brawl where Washington physically threatened Dempsey not to talk to him like how he did to Knight. He also referred to Knight using a homophobic slur.


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The situation cooled down after several people intervened. But, someone leaked the incident to the media, which started rumors about Knight being gay.

This had severely affected his life because he had not come out to his family until then. So, when the details of the incident got out, his family knew about his sexuality.

After this, he felt it was important to talk about his position. Therefore, on October 19, 2006, he publicly confirmed to People magazine that he was, in fact, gay.

He wanted to stop unnecessary rumors about him and be open and honest about his orientation. However, he also revealed that he still preferred to keep his personal life under wraps.

"While I prefer to keep my personal life private, I hope the fact that I'm gay isn't the most interesting part of me," he said in the statement.

Washington was fired from the show shortly after this incident.


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Despite the circumstances of his coming out, he did not feel that it was that difficult for him.

During an interview with HuffPost in March 2016, he said, "I'm lucky that it wasn't dangerous for me." while also recognizing that it is nevertheless "not easy" regardless and some people have it worse than others because of persecution and ostracization.

However, he also felt that it was better if everyone was true to themselves. He felt a "strength" in being honest with himself and felt the community would be stronger if everyone had similar feelings.

T.R. Knight's Married Life with Husband Patrick Leahy

Later in the same interview, Knight talked about his thankfulness for being allowed to marry his husband, Leahy, legally.

"To be allowed to be wearing this and have it be legal, that's incredible," he said, talking about his wedding ring.

According to Daily Mail, Knight and Leahy started dating in 2010 and went public with their relationship that same year. Then, three years later, the Grey's Anatomy star married his now-husband.

T.R. Knight with his husband Patrick Leahy at their wedding.

T.R. Knight with his husband Patrick Leahy at their wedding. (Photo: T.R. Knight/Instagram)

Their nuptials was a small ceremony held on October 4, 2013, in Upstate New York. Only his closest family members and friends were present, including his Grey's Anatomy co-star Katherine Heigl and Kate Walsh.

They celebrated their 8th anniversary in 2021. Knight expressed his gratitude towards his friend Marylouise Burke, who officiated their wedding in a celebratory post.

"Eight years of gratitude for those who fought to make it possible, of hope for those who still don't have the right... and we honor the memory of those who never had the chance," he wrote in the post.