Kehlani is setting the record straight. 

On November 30, the R&B singer was interviewed by Byrdie, and she talked about embracing her non-binary identity.

Earlier this year, the singer had updated her Twitter account to include her preference for she/they pronouns.

Kehlani explained she felt like she had earned respect when people used “they.”  

I don’t mind when people say ‘she’ at all, but something feels really affirming when people say ‘they.’ It feels like... you really see me.

However, after the article was published, blogs and magazines put out articles about the singer preferring to use “she/they” pronouns and identified her as they. But it looks like Kehlani’s had enough because she tweeted her response

She also took to her Instagram stories to criticize all the blogs and magazines for the “click bait” stories. 

Kehlani’s Coming Out 

During the Byrdie interview, Kehlani also talked about her coming out.

Earlier this year, Kehlani came out as a lesbian on TikTok and Instagram Live. According to the ‘Can I’ hitmaker, her friends and family were already aware that she was one and was waiting for her to realize it. 

“I’m like, Guys, I finally know that I’m gay — like, I’m gay gay, and they’re like, We know. Duh, stupid. Duh,” she joked.

The singer also shared that she found it more important to focus on the journey of coming out rather than the act of coming out. 


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Kehlani, who has identified as queer, bisexual, and pansexual, explained that she wished her journey was more about discovering how she loved and what she needed versus emphasizing the need to come out. 

Speaking with The Advocate before coming out as a lesbian, she talked about how she had been lucky that her “straight and cisgender presenting” privilege had helped her find success.

Moreover, she did so without being affected by the “phobias of the American public and the world.”

“A lot of it is very [much] in how they present. It’s tougher for them. It’s tougher for trans artists. It’s tougher for Black gay men. It’s tougher for Black masculine gay women,” she iterated. 

Kehlani on Raising Her Daughter


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As an artist often talking about love and gayness, the singer also opened up about raising her daughter.

The singer shares her 2-year-old daughter, Adeya, with her former partner and musician, Javie Young-White. 

She explained that in the future, instead of worrying about the gender of who her daughter might love, she would worry more about whether it was a good person. 

She continued saying that if her “daughter doesn’t have to go through a journey to discover she’s straight, then she doesn’t have to go through a journey to discover if she’s gay.”

The singer noted her daughter was going to be raised amongst her gay aunties and uncles. 

And she would be taught not to judge but to love.